Okay all you super parents out there! I’ve read all the greatest parenting books, and know all the best ways to approach parenting. Yet I struggle with one small piece of the big puzzle (I’m pretty sure it’s the most important piece too). So I’m asking you earnestly; how do you do it?
When your four year old pushes his little cousin down the step and gives him a black eye, how do you keep calm and not scream and smack at him? How do you control your fear that you have a little hooligan in the making? I understand that my emotions feed the negative actions of my child, but damned if I can stop from reacting! Some one help me out here!
The big monster in the room at my house has been the way my preschooler treats others. For example, I stepped out the door into my backyard last week to find my poor fuzzy kitty’s head being squished by Alex’s knees.
He was giggling sadistically while squishing the brains right out of her! Naturally my reaction was to grab him by the ear and drag his butt to his bedroom for a serious time out. All the while I was screaming a lecture about how animals are defenseless, like babies blah blah blah…I guarantee that’s what I sounded like to him: wha, wha, wha, just like the teaches on Charlie Brown!
I, being a well read parent, know better than to lecture a four year old. I know treating him like a little adult is not helpful, but in the heat of the moment I can’t seem to find my off switch! I’ve heard people say “take a deep breath and count to ten before reacting”. I’m sorry, that does not seem logical when the moment calls for instant reaction. Am I going about this all wrong? Should I have stood there watching my poor fluffy cat fade into unconsciousness in order to analyze how to properly discipline my child?! Do you see my dilemma?
Am I alone in this struggle? I could use the advice of parents who have conquered!